How To Spot A Shitty Friend

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To say that I have had trouble with friends would be an understatement. At the time it hurt me a lot. But with like most things that hurt you the benefit of learning a lesson. My friendship dramas have been over for years now. Leaving me with a few friends who I know I can rely on and also leaving me the very important ability to spot a shitty friend from a mile off. If I had only had this gift years ago but never mind, that's life. At least I can share with you the signs to watch out for in a friend. 

They put you down
If your friends puts you down in order to make themselves look good you know they are not someone you want around. A true friend will make you feel great about yourself especially if you are not feeling too good at the time. A rubbish friend will make you feel terrible about yourself for their own amusement or to seem "cool" in front of other people. Completely not on. 

Talk about you behind your back 
If your friend has nothing good to say about you when you aren't around then they aren't really your friend. A great friend has nothing but praise about you when you aren't around to hear. 

They put down your achievements 
Something amazing happens to you and you are over the moon. A real friend will cry, scream, hug you and be over the moon too. A shitty friend will ignore your achievement, dismiss it or just put it down. 

Everything is about them 
Sort of related to the last point if you achieve something incredible or you have had a shit day or something bad has happened a rubbish friend will make it about them: they have achieved something better. they've had a worse day, something worse has happened to them. They always have to try to make everything about them. 

Demand your presence 
So a good friend will obviously want to see you lots but will understand that you are busy and will wait until you aren't as busy. A fake friend will get huffy, claim that you aren't bothering and so on. 

You leave them feeling drained 
When leaving a good friend or good group of friends you will feel happy, laughing about all the fun stuff you did together and a tiny bit sad that it's over. When leaving a shitty friend you will feel drained of energy and have a huge sense of relief that it's over. 


These points may seem really obvious but sometimes giving up on a friend no matter how rubbish they are feels like the end of the world and you'll ignore all these signs. Don't. It's better to have no friends than awful ones. Besides the time that you are wasting on a bad friends could be spent on better ones or making new ones,  


I hope you enjoyed this post. Do you agree with any of these points? What do you think the signs of a shitty friends are? 


Thanks for reading! 


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16 comments:

  1. Its interesting read as I think I'm in this situation with my best friend. I guess we are not best friends any more. She just say's sometimes the most offensive things...Thanks for sharing this post :)

    Laura
    Pink Frenzy

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    1. I'm sorry that you are having to go through this and it's so hard but you honestly will be so much better off without them! I hope this post helps and thank you for stopping by!

      Ella xx

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  2. I've definitely had my fair share of friend drama as well! I have no time for fake friends anymore, I'm happy with my few close ones!

    The Velvet Black | UK Personal Style & Beauty Blog

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    1. I am in the same position I am more than happy having a few friends that I can count on. Thanks for dropping in!

      Ella xx

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  3. It's funny because I haven't had friends who make me feel this bad since High School, but this post really reminds me of some of my ex boyfriends! I guess we learn from experience, so at least we don't have to experience this again in any of our future relationships (romantic or friendships).

    alicered.co.uk

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    1. Yeah I guess these are the signs you should look out in any sort of relationships. Thank you for stopping by!

      Ella xx

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  4. I thing one sure fire sign that you're getting older is when you friendship circle starts to get smaller - I think it's important to surround yourself with people who support you, respect and value your company. If this isn't happening I think it's definitely better cut these so-called "friends" loose.

    – Lubna | The Digital Review

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    1. I completely agree with you I would much rather have a few friends I can rely on. Thanks for dropping in!

      Ella xx

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  5. I had quite a lot of drama with friends in High School and it took me so long to stop taking it from them and put myself first. But the moment I decided to do that, I found myself surrounded by good people who understood.

    Sometimes taking that first step is the hardest thing, but it gets so much better!

    www.ashwinnie.com

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    1. Putting yourself is definitely a necessity sometimes! I'm pleased you found yourself some good friends, thanks for dropping in!

      Ella xx

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  6. It's weird to read this, because I can relate to this too much. I've known some of my friends are putting me down and whenever I've been with them I feel super tired and drained from all energy.

    I'm going to do something about it for sure!

    Lissanne ~ awkward-overload.blogspot.com

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    1. I know it's hard but you have to let people like that go, they are no good for you! Thanks for dropping in!

      Ella xx

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  7. Boy oh boy have I been there! I really, really dislike the talking about people behind their back. Even if you're MY friend and talking about someone else behind their back I'm like just don't. Because if you're doing it to them you're probably doing it to me! Here's to years without shitty friends and all the lovely friends, even if they're across the world! XO -Kim

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    1. It's the worst isn't it? Yes! Here's to having awesome friends no matter where they are! Thanks for stopping by my wonderful friend!

      Ella xx
      www.inellaselement.co.uk

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  8. I know how this feels and still to this day she plays the victim card! She was such a bad friend and drained all the positive energy about me , I don't know why I used to go back to her all the time but never again now, that chapter has well and truly gone now. I feel a million times happier. Great post.

    Paige - www.paigespreferences.com xxx

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    1. I'm sorry that this happened to you but well done for cutting her out of your life, it's definitely for the best! Thanks for popping in!

      Ella xx

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